Hello again! Back in January I decided to leave this blog
for a month or two just to see if it would help my creativity and make posting
seem like less of a chore. The best part of a year later and I finally remember
that it’s here AND have the time to write a post. I think that a rewind is in
order!
This year started of pretty unremarkably with the life being
pretty much the same as it was back in the olden days of 2012. I knew that my (lovingly
adopted) German sister was getting married this June back in Germany, but didn’t
think that I would have to go (even though a large part of me wanted to it was
that age old battle between ambition and ability). Finally in February I
committed to going, which would mean a couple of months of worrying about it.
By April my mother was doing another one of her “you need to socialise more”
pushes; and so I did as little as I could get away with (this time I had
neither the ability nor inclination to do it. That she can’t accept the fact
that I have never and will never like it was slightly disappointing…). A few
uncomfortable dinners later and she forgot that she was trying to push me;
which made for a very happy me.
Until that is when work started to dry up in a rather
alarming fashion. My hours stared to be cut until I was doing only one day a
week and even that was voluntary rather than paid. But hey, I had to keep up
with my training and reminding the boss-man that I was useful. So I had to take
more and more work in my parents’ business. I keep reminding myself how lucky I
am that I have something to fall back on when times get tough and I really do
appreciate it. For a while it was quite good working again with all of the
people that I grew up with and spent all of my holidays working with.
However, since I had last worked there, there had been some
huge changes in the atmosphere. There are five or six departments, four of
which I have worked in at some point in my life. The one that I disliked
working in the most (for now referred to only as BH) had a senior manager who I
had been told was A) a complete tit and B) a bully. I had seen some of this
when I had worked there and it was a major contributing factor in my decision
to leave that department. I thought it was just me that saw this and so never
said anything to my parents. That and I hate playing politics as being Autistic
I am always at a disadvantage and somewhat inept at it. However this BH manager
was causing a lot of problems for not only those staff under him, but also my
new department and its manager. Colleagues kept complaining about him to me
hoping (erroneously) that I could get him sacked. I told them all that they had
to make a formal complaint if they were having that many problems with him.
This started a series of complaints, interviews and reviews that led to nothing
happening as it turns out BH manager (BHM) had friends high up in the business that
either looked the other way or covered for him in a dishonourable fashion. My mother
took it seriously, but my father, the incredibly gentle and forgiving man that
he is, was sadly reluctant to do anything. The failure for any action to be
taken against BHM meant that he was free to intimidate anyone who spoke out
against him (including myself) and led to them either being issued warnings or
being forced to quit. I almost issued a formal complaint against him for this,
but relented thinking that maybe he had learnt a lesson and would change his
ways (did he hell!). I regret that decision because since that date four more people
have been bullied out of their jobs. I cannot go into that department anymore
and feel ostracised from a large part of my parents’ business.
All of this was happening in the run up to me travelling to
Germany for my sister’s wedding. Emotional exhaustion did not help my ability
to keep my nerves in check and for most of the departure day I had my head over
the loo throwing up my breakfast and anything else that I had eaten or drunk
until I was simply retching up bile. That was possibly the lowest point that I
have been to for a good few years. However, I did manage to pull myself
together enough to go. One overnight ferry trip later and I was in Rotterdam
with my parents and travelling through the beautiful, yet flat country of the
Netherlands. I did quite enjoy driving through there and Northern Germany. The
wedding and the three days of partying that it entailed were highly stressful,
yet I was glad that I did it and was able to see my older sister getting
married. It was quite an experience with all of the fantastic German beer and
food, and I have a great soft spot for the German people who are always so
friendly and ready to laugh and have fun.
I was however glad to get that event done and dusted and
being back at home was fantastic. That was until I had to attend yet another
wedding (luckily very local) for one of my distant Australian cousins,
sandwiched in between two very large dinner parties. The first wasn’t too bad,
but the wedding and the second party were extremely stressful as I spent them
being ‘chased’ by two different women. Afterwards we had my cousins daughter
and grand-daughter staying with us and I have a great affection for both of
them (and indeed my cousin), and I found their company extremely pleasant and
not in the least bit stressful.
The annual holiday to Spain was fantastic (better than last
year!) and I was able to relax for three weeks and re-charge my ‘batteries’. I
really needed it because this summer was possibly the busiest and most
stressful summers of my life (though not the worst as the good times out-weighed
the bad).
Getting home proved interesting as just when work was
picking up (the other work) again, my boss was involved in a horrific car crash
and was seriously injured; though he is recovering now and I am back to full-time again. That was a huge shock and meant that I had to go
back to working for my parents (for minimum wage the bloody slave drivers!). My
youngest brother also left to go and spend part of his gap year in India which
made me feel anxious as I was reminded of my aborted attempt to be ‘normal’ and
go travelling in my gap year (one of the worst and darkest years of my life).
Then came the news that my older brother had proposed to his long term
girlfriend, which was fantastic news (except for the thought of having to
attend yet another wedding (I hate those damn things!)) as I love them both
dearly and my sister-in-law to be is an absolute peach and they are both
incredibly understanding of my mental health issues.
Well, that about sums up my year so far. It’s been at times
chaos, anxiety and despair and yet at others hope, happiness and contentment. I
just hope that the remainder will be a little quieter!